Your best chance is to find a girlfriend on one of the sites like e where EVERY WOMAN i met in person ended up making love to me. EVERY WOMAN who met me in person after going through the e Harmony process made love to me and then some!! they get it WHENEVER and with WHOMEVER they want on AFF.
I had sex with OVER 50-women 3-4 times a week for 2-8 months AVERAGE relationship time in 15 years just by going on there and paying the .95 I think it is for 3-4 months membership. 8-month relationships and each we had sex 3-4 times per week if not more.
Anything that looks too good to be true probably is.
Please keep in mind that the men out-number the females by a factor of 10.
With BDSM there is always room for ideas, fanatasy, role playing and more.
Once you make the right connection with someone you will find that you will be able to do new things that you might not be able to in normal everyday relationships.
How do you meet people that are interested in BDSM and want to make real connections?