While a dating partner may not welcome this news, it at least can minimize later disappointments.
"It becomes much more difficult to objectively see each other's character traits" says Susanne Alexander, a relationship coach and author of Can We Dance? "Some couples then slide into engagement and marriage only to discover they have missed seeing major aspects of each other." While not every dating scenario that involves sex leads to marriage or even a serious relationship, couples do owe it to themselves to talk about where they see their relationship going and how sex might change the relationship -- before they get in bed together. The woman may assume sex implies a commitment; the man may not see it that way," Allen tells Web MD.
Having an honest conversation with yourself about sex is just as important as discussing it with your partner, experts say.
But overall, I have found that very often they want the same thing," Allen says.
If you want to see your relationship grow, you'll have to ask questions - lots of them. Learning about someone's past can be tricky; you don't want to seem like you're giving them the third degree, but at the same time you want to know more about them.
Concern about STDs and unwanted pregnancies can help create sexual boundaries, believes Mc Clary.